Relationships require compromise.
They require you to extend yourself for the sake of the other, and they require you to redefine the definition of love that our culture has handed to you.
Most dangerous, perhaps, is the fact that our culture tends to hammer home the “fact” that love is a feeling. But the reality is that love is action. It’s work. It’s something we must commit to as a practice.
Suppose you are naturally tidy, not behaving in a tidy manner and your partner is not, being irresponsible, football lover, and workaholic, shy or easily stressed what will you do?
If you cannot live with all these characteristics don’t get involved. Don’t embark on a relationship with someone hoping you can cope with the trait or try to change it. Trying to change it can make both of you miserable, no one is perfect, and everyone can be irritating depending on your mood in a relationship.
Treating your new partner like a project that you need to work on, like something that most ”Improve” is disrespectful and can make the person feel you don’t appreciate him/her for who he or she is. So many believe that they can attempt to change their partner, it’s only a matter of time.
When you try to change them they feel you don’t really love them, you are probably trying to turn them into someone to feed your needs. The fact is that you don’t ask people to change, even if they want to. Sure, they can modify their behavior but they can’t change their personality.
Don’t embark on a relationship with someone hoping you can cope with the Trait or try to change it. ‘’Trying to change’’. It can make both of you miserable.
I know no one is exactly perfect , everyone can be Irritated depending on your mood in a relationship, but you’re looking for someone whose irritating habits are worth putting up with not for someone who you can mould to your taste or lifestyle. They might keep the behavior in check for the first few months or years.
But sooner or later when the euphoria’s wears off and the stress of normal life returns they will go back to their old ways, as the saying goes’’ Character is like a pregnancy, in a little while it begins to show’’.